Last Friday I wrote all about the worst break-up I’ve ever had and compared it to getting a really bad review. This week, to balance the universe a little, I’d like to tell you about the best date I’ve ever been on. Gentlemen, take note! This date is something that was fun, easy to prepare, and about as inexpensive as it comes.
So I don’t exactly remember when this was. At least 15 years ago. And I don’t remember what I was doing out in the countryside where my high school classmate Mike lived. All I know is that it was after high school, I hadn’t seen Mike for a while, and I was near his house in rural western Pennsylvania. I can’t remember what precipitated going out for lunch with him, but I arrived at his house giddy with expectation, ready for anything.
Folks, Mike had packed a picnic. Yep, a good, old fashioned picnic. He had made me a turkey sandwich. Not just any turkey sandwich either. The turkey was sliced thick and came straight from a nearby farm. The bread was fresh and amazing. I can’t remember what else he put in the picnic basket, just that the sandwich was amazing.We drove a short distance, up to the top of a hill on his family’s property. He had mowed a space in the middle of the tall grass that was just big enough for a blanket. The area still smelled of fresh grass, a scent I love. The late-summer crickets serenaded us with their best song. That high up on the hill there was no ambient people noise, no cars or even planes. It was a true retreat into the beauty of nature. And the view was incredible!
I can’t remember what we talked about. I can’t remember how long we were up there or what we did. Mike didn’t put the moves on me, which was actually really nice for a first date. It was just a lovely, peaceful afternoon in the sun.
Okay, so aside from the obvious, what made this the best date I’ve ever been on? Mike put so much thought into the whole thing. He took his time to prepare. Nothing he did was expensive or flashy. It was sweet and simple and thoughtful. It was very Mike. And that turkey sandwich was wonderful! I was impressed by the fact that he’d done everything himself, from mowing to making lunch to spreading the blanket.
Notice, Mike didn’t move mountains. He didn’t make reservations at the finest restaurant in Pittsburgh. He didn’t break out the caviar and champagne. Now, that might have flattered me if he was a ritzy millionaire living that kind of lifestyle. But Mike was and is a country boy at heart. He did something that came from his heart and was unique to him.
So guys, if you’re trying to impress a lady, the best advice I can give you, as learned from this wonderful date, is to put yourself into what you do. Present yourself honestly and thoughtfully. Think about the girl you’re taking out and what would feel special to her. Mike nailed that date because he didn’t overstretch himself or try hard to impress me in a way that wasn’t true to him. He rocked it!
Ironically enough, Mike and I did end up dating for a while, but not until years later. That’s another long story. Unfortunately, it didn’t work out for several reasons. But to this day I still think of Mike as the Good Boyfriend. And if you read the dedication of my book Our Little Secrets you might notice a shout-out to Mike.
So what about you? What is the best date you’ve ever been on? I’d love to hear everyone’s stories.